DIS-connected.

How does he expect us to be friends when he was a lousy lover? Be friends so I can hear you go on about your new conquests? Be friends after you have left tons of messages disclosing how you miss me, yet you have not once said "I am sorry." Be friends after listening to several of your messages week after week yet still no "I love YOU." He wants a friend but cannot be a friend. What part of history do I want to repeat? How about that moment in time when he did not exist to me- yeah that's about right. Be friends? Be gone!

POST- MAN

I find it so crazy when a guy you have dealt with in the past just out of the blue tries to contact you. Well bucko- you had your chance. Most of the times the so called apology is just a statement used as a key to open you up to them again. I am of the thought that a lot of people cannot recognize good in their life or just like complicated relationships. It may appear that they have changed but truly they just want you back in their life so you can fill them up (ahem) again and boost their ego. I suggest you consider the source and ask yourself if you are willing to re-visit that experience because we always get back into the same dynamics with old flames no matter how much you think they have changed. They know you well because you poured your heart out to them, you made yourself vulnerable and they know that.

Brotha2Brotha renamed Brotha4Brotha

I just finished watching a video clip of 1 sgl brotha being mauled and beat down by at least (reported) 8 black dogs (hood guys). I always thought that because of our plights in history that black people would rise above hate or at least be more compassionate to diversity. SMH! What happened to all the efforts made during the civil rights era? In the midst of Black history month I feel stunned. With that said, I put out this statement for ALL brothas that happen to be attracted to brothas (black-mixed-latino)in particular... LOVE one ANOTHER. It is hard enough being demonized and victimized by our straight counterparts. Nurture each other and protect each other. Straight guys want to F%$# us up and many lost gay guys just want to F%$# each other. Let's truly be our BROTHAS keeper!

SGL DATING- Staying OPEN

When you get WAY less from you are putting out- WHAT DO YOU DO?

I've been told... "YOU love too much, YOU give too much."
Is there such thing as too much LOVE?

Their God Hates gays.

I have met some spiritually messed up dudes.
I mean it is nice to date a guy who loves the Lord but then it gets to the point of religious insanity. Out of nowhere they become holier than thou and then run top speed to church(religion) not God. God is everywhere. It's such self hate.
They do not understand that love is what we are here to do. They do what CUMS natural to them then feel guity and beleive church will quick fix and sexually cleanse them and in no time they are back to their old dicks (I mean tricks again).

They will never find resolution with their God because they fail to realize that being gay is part of their sexual DNA. Sex is not a relationship but you can have sex in a relationship. What they also fail to realize is that they are walking contradictions because "church" and "scriptures" is there to bring you to the truth and truth is what exists not what is conjured up. Either you a attracted to men or you aren't. YES it is that simple. I think that is a big mockery to GOD whom created you. I did not wake up and say "hey I'm gonna go after dick to piss of God and the Church." In my eyes it is the fact that they do not know how to love themselves and all God wants is for you to acknowledge that you were created as you are and stop lying and faking your true nature.Stop dragging these deserving women of heterosexuality into your web of sexual frustration and denial.



Next Brotha that I allow into my world is gonna have to love the SGL trinity which is God, himself and me.

What type of guy do you attract?

Own worst enemy

Letting society DICKtate whom and how you love. Even behind closed doors, a "safe place" for two SGL brothas to explore each other, there still lies this distrust or sense of uncomfort. THEN WHY ARE YOU HERE if you ae not wiling to give your all?

SIGH!

LOVE FUCKING LOVE

If you loved me then you wouldn't want to fuck me.
It's getting old how a lot of Brothas still beleive SEX is the way love is expressed.
Drop my guard and my pants.
A few sweet words to warm up my body.
A lot of non-action outside the bed to chill my soul.
If you loved me then I would feel you deep inside of me with my clothes on.
A fucked up mental dance.
I will not fuck you and think it's love.
AH!!! We just came and you have to go. LOVE ya or love IT?

LOVE in my eyes is truth, support, patience, acceptance, conditionless and selfless.



The SEX thing amomgst us SGL BROTHAS should never be equated to LOVE.
Penetration seems to be the driving force amongst us brothas.
Even when we are getting off, feeling sensual pleasure, it's still not enough unless someone is FUCKED -literally and proverbially.

I mean m2m relationships can be so complicated and I truly beleive that we need to really re-examine our take on the way we deal with each other.

I, like the other dude wants to climax, nut, excrete whatever way you want to put it but I know deep down that sex is something so fleeting and does not define my relationships and a lame way to try to express your love.
What makes our fuck so special? Why is our sex the ultimate expression of your LOVE for me and that fling you had years ago, last month, last night NOTHING?
It's still SEX and the END OF THE NIGHT- RIGHT?
I don't care if you want to call our sexual exchange "making LOVE."
I am not buying it anymore, sex is sex and love is love.

The sex part is the easiest and most obvious part. It cums so natural to us yet we do not put enough empahsis on the togetherness- the support the real effort to show love. Offer sex to a brotha under most situations and circumstances and he is there. Offer love, intimacy and stability minus the sex and you will find yourself hugging thin air.

Most people say that SEX is the 1st thing to go in a relationship so why don't we put sex last in our beginning relationships? It's the first thing we talk about, the first way we express ourselves, it's the first thing we are concerned about, it's the first thing we act upon, obsess about.

Some Brothas of us Brothas will meet someone and spend hours/weeks/ talking about what we want in a relationship but do not wait and observe whether that person meets, represents or capable providing our real desires. We hop into to bed like that is the deal sealer when really that should be the reward for proving oneself worthy and meeting our expectations based upon CONCRETE and CONSISTENT behavioural patterns. OH no, we get so damn hasty and wanna give up th goods.
When we finally realize that the person we are with is truly not even worthy to sip tea with much less taste our wine. Then we go thru emotional withdrawal when really it is just sexual frustraton 'cause that person was NEVER really there with emotion but just there for the motion.

Matrimony Mirror

I am Single and Same Sexual. Now that's out of the way...

I've read many times that people in your life are like a mirror of yourself.
I used to be the first one to say YEAH THAT IS SOO TRUE.
Now why do I question what it is that they are reflecting back?
I guess that is the question I have to ask myself huh?

The situation...

Why Oh why do I continually meet married men, bi men, guys who have been married before or are in a "situation." I mean it is so strange that of all the options, I continually attract what seems like the most complicated brothas. Is me not being completely OUT the problem? AM I REALLY DL because I pick and choose whom I disclose my sexual proclivities to? Am I still closeted when I fully accept my sexuality and own it and express it to the person I am with? Do I have to run the streets screaming I'm here I'm queer I am black and sticker the rainbow flag on my car? Is that really people's BIZ? Would that throw off this trail of the real DL men that I draw to me?

This is so frustrating because I have gone to the clubs and I consider myself quite gay friendly and quite socially diverse. Been told that I am quite undetectable (trust me I am just being myself unlike the "straight" acting tripe that a lot of SGL Brothas portray).I make myself available and try not to sterotype or discriminte dating options when it comes to Brothas. I will even say Hello to a Tranny or a Drag Queen at the local supemarket if that was to ever take place. Yet, when I meet someone new, there is always this his & hers luggage (ahem baggage) that comes along with them. "Oh my Gosh am I hermaphrodite and nobody told me or am I just the ideal male partner for these guys, not too masc. not to fem. I just don't get it. Maybe it's a compliment that I am everything they ever wanted in a man and in a woman. Maybe I should start wearing a wedding ring to throw them off of my trail. Maybe I should wear a TSHIRT that says NO BI/MARRIED MEN. Maybe it is a compliment that I am marriage material or maybe... okay I'm rambling. LOL



I desire and I WILL meeet an available, single black/latino brotha that, as one of my Fav bloogers THE GAYTE KEEPER says "Ready to Male. Until then I will continue to look deep into this matrimony mirror that is shoved in my face.

Prude & Proud

I just finished watching a video blog of someone who just got out of a relationship and now they have confessed and are some-what proud to be a serial hoe (so to speak). I am stunned! You get out of a relationship and decide - "well I cannot commit to one person so I will give myself to errorBody (everybody)I feel." How challenging.

I find it sad that we as SGL brothas feel that it is okay to encourage or agree with our "friends" that exihibit/ brag about this behaviour. So jaded and they don't even realize but they have moved on and are so happy to be free. HMMM! I have always been an advocate for monogamy and practice it, sans the time I slipped. Okay, we all deserve a one free "I messed up" pass. :) Do what you will with your body, but what does it proove? Do I want to hook up with someone who is so available/fast/easy and so used up sexually? NO! How empty are you that you need to get temporarily filled up by water downed gas? Sorry, I prefer premium. Costs more but much more rewarding and less damage down the road. I don't care how responsible you are condom wise. Actually, that is great but the behaviour is still dangerous/risky. I sigh in sadness that many of us Brothas have not read the post it notes left on our psyche's wall. POST IT NOTE One night stands never feel good once you sit to yourself.



I attribute a lot of this to Black PORN> Fantasy does not have to translate to reality. I may visualize 5 hot guys lined up waiting to service ME and ME only but in reality do I want to persue that? ye-NO!

We treat each other like disposable dildos & glory holes.
Some people are just to be admired and not had.

It's not chic anymore.

Are you a hurt person hurting people or a loving person loving people?

keyBORED over paveMENt

Now I know this is taken from scriptures but it is so applicable to most life situations. We are not supposed put our hands to the plow and look back once we make a decision to move forward. So I have made a decision to be patient and never act out of desparation again. So why have I looked back? Am I acting on inspiration? Could this be the right timing? Or have I let impatience and temporal lonliness take over?

I have signed up for the same online dating site 3rice. I just find that I am way too open, become waaaay too attached to words and way too hopeful in exchange of flat,inconsistent online exchanges and then I shut down my account. I know this is a "tired" question but if I am online and I "believe" my heart is in the right place, is it possible that the person I give my precious typing time to is just as decent, fair and honest with what they want? Or should I just keep my hand to plow and not look back at online potential dating?

side note- I still believe in the convention ideal of public social interaction e.g bumping into that special person as you are coming out of a store or some beautiful random act of fate like that. :)

Subconsciously Straight???

Could it be that I am too hetero- behaving?

I mean the Sistas seem to fawn over me. Always wanting to exchange numbers. N.B; I am not stating this in a vain or ego based manner.

I had one female friend obsess/ have a mental romantic relationship with me. The friendship ended due to my need to socilaize outside of my upaid therapist-like friendship. It may have been the universe breaking that unrequited love cycle that I allowed to manifest.

I have another female "acquaintance" that I have not seen in years (reason for everything). I am now getting hampered with phone messages with pleas to meet up one on one. "What you do today?, I called you this morning..." I am quite annoyed. More than 3 phone calls in a day is getting stalkerish and quite frankly invasive, especially when it is not coming from your Man/lover. I by no means am requesting this type of behavior from either gender to be exact.

Is my masculinity and regular brotha next door vibe chasing the Brothas away?

Is my "undetectable" gay vibe keeping the Brothas at bay?

Or is it Sistas are becoming way too desperate/ aggressive and latch onto any guy that gives them the time of day, whether he is attracted to her or not?

I truly believe that the only person that really needs to know your sexual affinity is the person you are attracted to or are intimate with.

I do not act "straight", I am just me. I blend in all environments. I do not get more straight in a straight environment or more nellyish in a gay one. I rarely talk about my sex life, I have learned to keep that to myself.



Listen Woman, I do not want with you to jump the broom.
I see your true qualities already in your demanding ways.
Even if I was into your kind, that broom you want us to jump would still stay so vertical.I too have an urgency but based on your attitude and actions you have showed me a mirror of self reflection that I will not find my lover by being a bother just like you.

Listen Man, make up your mind. I am the type of guy you can bring around your peeps and never have to play a role or stiffen up my body to pass. Talk to me I won't bite. I won't do anything to you that you don't want done to yourself. I just want this dodge ball game to end. You know what you desire and I am here just as you required. I can gage chemistry at a glance but I will not stalk, seduce, nor demand atention from you..

Intimacy

I am so single right now AND at one with myself but...

I wanna kiss

I wanna touch

I wanna mind fu%#

I wanna be mind fu%#ed

I wanna be connected to a beautiful brotha who is not afraid of connecting with a brotha that craves a lova that will be a lova to anotha brotha. He that is ready to be free... free to express, free to desire, free to be supported free to receive passionate intimate moments. I want him now. :) I have nourished myself through rough times and have touched myself enough times. Can I touch you and share all the joy I have gained along the way? Can you rub my loneliness away?

I am so awaiting for partnership right now, a union of two souls but...