Friday, February 6, 2009

LOVE FUCKING LOVE

If you loved me then you wouldn't want to fuck me.
It's getting old how a lot of Brothas still beleive SEX is the way love is expressed.
Drop my guard and my pants.
A few sweet words to warm up my body.
A lot of non-action outside the bed to chill my soul.
If you loved me then I would feel you deep inside of me with my clothes on.
A fucked up mental dance.
I will not fuck you and think it's love.
AH!!! We just came and you have to go. LOVE ya or love IT?

LOVE in my eyes is truth, support, patience, acceptance, conditionless and selfless.



The SEX thing amomgst us SGL BROTHAS should never be equated to LOVE.
Penetration seems to be the driving force amongst us brothas.
Even when we are getting off, feeling sensual pleasure, it's still not enough unless someone is FUCKED -literally and proverbially.

I mean m2m relationships can be so complicated and I truly beleive that we need to really re-examine our take on the way we deal with each other.

I, like the other dude wants to climax, nut, excrete whatever way you want to put it but I know deep down that sex is something so fleeting and does not define my relationships and a lame way to try to express your love.
What makes our fuck so special? Why is our sex the ultimate expression of your LOVE for me and that fling you had years ago, last month, last night NOTHING?
It's still SEX and the END OF THE NIGHT- RIGHT?
I don't care if you want to call our sexual exchange "making LOVE."
I am not buying it anymore, sex is sex and love is love.

The sex part is the easiest and most obvious part. It cums so natural to us yet we do not put enough empahsis on the togetherness- the support the real effort to show love. Offer sex to a brotha under most situations and circumstances and he is there. Offer love, intimacy and stability minus the sex and you will find yourself hugging thin air.

Most people say that SEX is the 1st thing to go in a relationship so why don't we put sex last in our beginning relationships? It's the first thing we talk about, the first way we express ourselves, it's the first thing we are concerned about, it's the first thing we act upon, obsess about.

Some Brothas of us Brothas will meet someone and spend hours/weeks/ talking about what we want in a relationship but do not wait and observe whether that person meets, represents or capable providing our real desires. We hop into to bed like that is the deal sealer when really that should be the reward for proving oneself worthy and meeting our expectations based upon CONCRETE and CONSISTENT behavioural patterns. OH no, we get so damn hasty and wanna give up th goods.
When we finally realize that the person we are with is truly not even worthy to sip tea with much less taste our wine. Then we go thru emotional withdrawal when really it is just sexual frustraton 'cause that person was NEVER really there with emotion but just there for the motion.

2 comments:

thegayte-keeper said...

I am LOVING this right here...it saddens me to see how many of we gay men are STILL throwing their undies in the ring looking for LOVE in the form of sex on a daily bases...

Santiago said...

I wish I had something interesting to add, but I just cannot put words together to make sense. Anyway, I know how it's like and completely agree.

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